My dear sweet friend Sue is no longer in pain. She no longer has to worry about chemo, blood transfusions, medicine, she can walk....dance across beautiful beaches in heaven.
She loved the beach, cotton candy, candy corn, Cosco, her friends, family and her husband Ray.
She was funny, blunt, real, encouraging, open, and never let things get to her.
I can't imagine this world not hearing her laugh. I hurt. I miss her.
Please be in prayer for her husband Ray, her father (he lost his wife two weeks ago and Sue's brother about a year ago). She has other family and friends-I know they all are hurting.
I am better for knowing Sue.
Love you Sue.
Sunday, June 17, 2012
Thursday, June 14, 2012
Guilty Pleasure
New show on A&E----Cajun Justice.
Love it!
Poor officers arrest a drug dealer and catch an alligator.
Love it!
Poor officers arrest a drug dealer and catch an alligator.
Wandering.....
Wandering how all these changes will affect all of us.
So much to be done .... Where to begin?
So much to be done .... Where to begin?
Tuesday, June 12, 2012
ADJUSTMENTS AND TRANSITIONS
After much prayer, thought and conversation. We will be transitioning mom to live with us full time. She just does not need to be by herself anymore.
This will help me considerably - I will not running between two houses twice a day. Grocery shopping will be easier. I won't worry about her at night. She will be safe. She knows are home and feels comfortable and safe. Melecia will come to our home.
I have to take this moment to brag on Sam - we told him of our plans last night - he was awesome! He will be taking a smaller room at the front of the house so mom can have a bigger room with privacy, etc. And she will be close to me. He never fussed, never complained. In fact he is excited. I am so proud of him. I can't think of many 14 year old boys who would be so quick to give up so much.
The hard part will be sorting through stuff and getting her situated. A lot of stuff will be divived between my sisters and I, some of it given away, etc. I wrote to both of my sisters - in a way it will be easier to do now twhile she is here on this earth than later on. It will be hard to see some of my dad's things - but it will easier to be practical about a lot of it.
I know we all will have adjustments to make. It won't be easy. I know at times we will be tired and discouraged. This is another leg of this journey. I know God will provide each step of the way.
We will paint, move furniture, all the stuff you need to do to get ready......my target date is the first week of July!
Please pray for us all.
This will help me considerably - I will not running between two houses twice a day. Grocery shopping will be easier. I won't worry about her at night. She will be safe. She knows are home and feels comfortable and safe. Melecia will come to our home.
I have to take this moment to brag on Sam - we told him of our plans last night - he was awesome! He will be taking a smaller room at the front of the house so mom can have a bigger room with privacy, etc. And she will be close to me. He never fussed, never complained. In fact he is excited. I am so proud of him. I can't think of many 14 year old boys who would be so quick to give up so much.
The hard part will be sorting through stuff and getting her situated. A lot of stuff will be divived between my sisters and I, some of it given away, etc. I wrote to both of my sisters - in a way it will be easier to do now twhile she is here on this earth than later on. It will be hard to see some of my dad's things - but it will easier to be practical about a lot of it.
I know we all will have adjustments to make. It won't be easy. I know at times we will be tired and discouraged. This is another leg of this journey. I know God will provide each step of the way.
We will paint, move furniture, all the stuff you need to do to get ready......my target date is the first week of July!
Please pray for us all.
Saturday, June 09, 2012
Sam and the wedding shoes
For a school dance this year I bought Sam a pair of dress shoes at Goodwill. I figured he would only wear them once.
Well...,,
His best friends sister got married today. Sam was helping at the wedding. (his friends family is awesome! They include Sam in so much - they fill in so many gaps that we have right now because of us caring for mom- they are a true blessing!)
Sam wore his dress clothes - looked downright handsome. And the shoes. They were a tad snug ... But no time or money for another pair.
At some point his soul came off one shoe. He didn't get the least bit upset or embarrassed. He hung them on the car of bride and groom. I love his attitude. The brides father lost his heel to his shoe... So he tied his shoes to the car also. Too funny!!!!!!
Well...,,
His best friends sister got married today. Sam was helping at the wedding. (his friends family is awesome! They include Sam in so much - they fill in so many gaps that we have right now because of us caring for mom- they are a true blessing!)
Sam wore his dress clothes - looked downright handsome. And the shoes. They were a tad snug ... But no time or money for another pair.
At some point his soul came off one shoe. He didn't get the least bit upset or embarrassed. He hung them on the car of bride and groom. I love his attitude. The brides father lost his heel to his shoe... So he tied his shoes to the car also. Too funny!!!!!!
I'm sorry but I hate Alzheimer's
I just hate it!
Right now mom is being so mean.
We have the whole house locked tight. I took her to get ice cream, she decided to pour it out in my car.
She is wide awake now just glaring at me. She is wearing her wool sweater and holding her purse. She has no clue who I am.
Well, heck at least this takes my mind off groceries! ha ha
In all seriousness, I need---we need prayer.
Right now mom is being so mean.
We have the whole house locked tight. I took her to get ice cream, she decided to pour it out in my car.
She is wide awake now just glaring at me. She is wearing her wool sweater and holding her purse. She has no clue who I am.
Well, heck at least this takes my mind off groceries! ha ha
In all seriousness, I need---we need prayer.
Lucy
Pray for sweet Lucy Krull and her family.
I do not know her family at all - we live in the same county. But she has been sick for 18 long months. Bravely fighting with a sweet smile.
Their time together is counted by days...by hours.
Pray!!!!!!!!!
I do not know her family at all - we live in the same county. But she has been sick for 18 long months. Bravely fighting with a sweet smile.
Their time together is counted by days...by hours.
Pray!!!!!!!!!
Sundowning
4:20 mom started sundowning. She is looking for the shoes that are on her feet.
I'm trying to be still and quiet.
I'm trying to be still and quiet.
DADDY
10 Years ago today my dad.....daddy went to heaven.
He would have been 84 this year. He and mom would have been married for 62 years. His friends called him Charlie, his nieces and nephews called him Uncle Rufus, grandchildren called him Pepa, mom called him Charles. But only three of us called him Daddy.
I miss him. Alzheimer's and Parkinson's destroyed his body , but God had his heart.
Love you always daddy.
He would have been 84 this year. He and mom would have been married for 62 years. His friends called him Charlie, his nieces and nephews called him Uncle Rufus, grandchildren called him Pepa, mom called him Charles. But only three of us called him Daddy.
I miss him. Alzheimer's and Parkinson's destroyed his body , but God had his heart.
Love you always daddy.
Thursday, June 07, 2012
Snake!!!
Today I saw a snake on the top of mom's shed.
As far as I'm concerned it was a python.
But I go in that shed! I use the mower the trimmers ! Ugh
As far as I'm concerned it was a python.
But I go in that shed! I use the mower the trimmers ! Ugh
Tonight
Tonight I am so tired! I took the day off today. I was so tired I was sick. I wish I could explain how bad I felt and feel.
I'm so thankful for Melecia and all she does. I know daytime isn't easy either. But today was a good day for mom. So the night seems to be good!
Please pray for a renewing of energy and strength.
I'm so thankful for Melecia and all she does. I know daytime isn't easy either. But today was a good day for mom. So the night seems to be good!
Please pray for a renewing of energy and strength.
Mom and Melecia
Melecia came into our lives almost two months ago. I cannot adequately explain what she means to us....to mom....me!
Her official "title" is "home health aide or assistant" but she is so much more.
She gives mom manicures nail polish and all.
Mom has three pair of glasses she insists on carrying in her purse....but Melecia knows which pair works best!
Before Melecia leaves each day she gets the coffee pot ready for mom to have the next morning.She remembers to fill the sugar bowl for mom!
She walks with mom twice a day around her yard and listens to mom's stories and absorbs details.
She curls moms hair and knows which shirt is her favorite.
She calls me on the weekend to check on mom!
Mom calls her "girl" but loves her and misses her when she doesn't see her!!
I know business is business. Personal is personal. Melecia handles it all wonderfully with her energetic laugh, positive attitude and her love of people!
Her official "title" is "home health aide or assistant" but she is so much more.
She gives mom manicures nail polish and all.
Mom has three pair of glasses she insists on carrying in her purse....but Melecia knows which pair works best!
Before Melecia leaves each day she gets the coffee pot ready for mom to have the next morning.She remembers to fill the sugar bowl for mom!
She walks with mom twice a day around her yard and listens to mom's stories and absorbs details.
She curls moms hair and knows which shirt is her favorite.
She calls me on the weekend to check on mom!
Mom calls her "girl" but loves her and misses her when she doesn't see her!!
I know business is business. Personal is personal. Melecia handles it all wonderfully with her energetic laugh, positive attitude and her love of people!
Wednesday, June 06, 2012
LUCY
Pray for Lucy Krull and her family....
Here is her mom's blog.
http://erikandkatekrull.blogspot.com/
Here is her mom's blog.
http://erikandkatekrull.blogspot.com/
JUDY AND I
My sister Judy and I have a lot of good memories. Goodness knows she was there through my darkest hours and did so much with dad.
Back in the day....(don't you love that expression) when there was The Mall of Memphis - we would go and just have the best time. We wouldn't have any money between us. We would swap up buying stuff. I remember when she bought me a night gown after I had Tori - I loved that gown. I remember us buying black shoes that tied - we both loved those shoes.
We would go Christmas shopping she looking for a McDonald's Play Set for her son Ryan at then Service Merchandise- and we would be in my little Dodge Omni - we somehow pushed it through the mall, got it in the car without Ryan seeing it. We would go in together and get gifts for dad (he loved the 49ers).
I remember when we discovered Dollar Tree - it was at the mall - we both spent more at the Dollar Store that day than we did any other store - for some reason we needed all of it.
29 cent hamburgers. Remember the summer McDonald's sold 29 cent hamburgers every Tuesday? We both babysat - so we would buy enough for lunches on Tuesday and Wednesday.
Judy and her husband Charlie have seen a lot of valleys and gone through so much. They work hard and are so creative.
Back in the day....(don't you love that expression) when there was The Mall of Memphis - we would go and just have the best time. We wouldn't have any money between us. We would swap up buying stuff. I remember when she bought me a night gown after I had Tori - I loved that gown. I remember us buying black shoes that tied - we both loved those shoes.
We would go Christmas shopping she looking for a McDonald's Play Set for her son Ryan at then Service Merchandise- and we would be in my little Dodge Omni - we somehow pushed it through the mall, got it in the car without Ryan seeing it. We would go in together and get gifts for dad (he loved the 49ers).
I remember when we discovered Dollar Tree - it was at the mall - we both spent more at the Dollar Store that day than we did any other store - for some reason we needed all of it.
29 cent hamburgers. Remember the summer McDonald's sold 29 cent hamburgers every Tuesday? We both babysat - so we would buy enough for lunches on Tuesday and Wednesday.
Judy and her husband Charlie have seen a lot of valleys and gone through so much. They work hard and are so creative.
Tuesday, June 05, 2012
Mom and her shoes
Mom has a pair of SAS shoes. They really do help her as far as comfort in walking and ankle support. She loves them. She looks so darn cute when she shows them off.
She hid them. And I mean she hid them.
Not to be found - it was enough to drive me insane!
Well just a bit ago I looked at her feet and she had them on!
I have no clue where they came from
One day I may be in therapy and the dr will ask "why are you here?" And I will say "my mother has these shoes...."
She hid them. And I mean she hid them.
Not to be found - it was enough to drive me insane!
Well just a bit ago I looked at her feet and she had them on!
I have no clue where they came from
One day I may be in therapy and the dr will ask "why are you here?" And I will say "my mother has these shoes...."
Nope! It's not morning!
It is 9:39 pm. Mom thinks it is morning. I have lights out and TV on low. She is wide awake.
The doctor ok'd an extra Seroquel looks like we need it.
I was able to mow our yard before she got bad and I so need to take a bath but she is too agitated to be left alone.
The doctor ok'd an extra Seroquel looks like we need it.
I was able to mow our yard before she got bad and I so need to take a bath but she is too agitated to be left alone.
MOMS WHO ARE IN PAIN...
No doubt, we all have everyday stresses and things that hurt and get in the way.
Read these two blogs - they will put life into perspective for you. You may have read them or come across them in your blogging world - please pray for both families...the battles are different - but they are hurting.
Lucy's Blog
http://erikandkatekrull.blogspot.com/
Baby Tripp
http://randycourtneytripproth.blogspot.com/
I often question why there is Alzheimer's. But it really doesn't seem fair that sweet babies fight these battles every day. God has a plan. He has a purpose. We have to trust and to believe. But I know it must be hard for these moms. I cannot imagine their pain.
And to my precious friend, Diane - I think of Joshua too.
Read these two blogs - they will put life into perspective for you. You may have read them or come across them in your blogging world - please pray for both families...the battles are different - but they are hurting.
Lucy's Blog
http://erikandkatekrull.blogspot.com/
Baby Tripp
http://randycourtneytripproth.blogspot.com/
I often question why there is Alzheimer's. But it really doesn't seem fair that sweet babies fight these battles every day. God has a plan. He has a purpose. We have to trust and to believe. But I know it must be hard for these moms. I cannot imagine their pain.
And to my precious friend, Diane - I think of Joshua too.
INSOMNIA
I guess I suffer from it. Or is it my mind waking me up?
I read a lot of blogs between 1:00-3:00 am - there are many people up at this time!
But not sleeping is not fun! I try going to bed later - thinking I won't wake up at this time - but I do. So I go to bed early - knowing at least I will get a few hours of sleep.
And by the way...I do believe the Cindy Crawford commercials along with Valerie Bertnalli's is on every channel in the middle of the night, middle of the day.
Another observation.......The shopping channels.....People really decided they need that set of luggage at 2:00 am?
I read a lot of blogs between 1:00-3:00 am - there are many people up at this time!
But not sleeping is not fun! I try going to bed later - thinking I won't wake up at this time - but I do. So I go to bed early - knowing at least I will get a few hours of sleep.
And by the way...I do believe the Cindy Crawford commercials along with Valerie Bertnalli's is on every channel in the middle of the night, middle of the day.
Another observation.......The shopping channels.....People really decided they need that set of luggage at 2:00 am?
SELF EVALUATION
Self evaluation is a hard thing to do. To challenge yourself mentally, spritually and emotionally. I am no where near where I should be in so many areas.
Yesterday I sent an email to a friend - I am not trying to sound pitiful or poor mouth - because God is so good.
But here is part of my self evaluation. Hopefully I will be so much stronger one day, one week, one month, one year from now.
Mark Gungar on Focus said one time "God does not want you to marry the person who meets all your needs because then there would be no room for Him."
Steve and I have been married four years. I think to all that has happened and hit us. I can see where God has provided and sustained us....me in many ways.
I wonder why I am on this journey - what is the purpose? Maybe One purpose is for God to be glorified, for the kingdom of heaven to be expanded. Another reason I suppose - is my reaction to situations. I thought with being a single mom for 11 years I had pretty much seen it all and such. Or went through it. Boy was I wrong. Never ask "what else Lord?" Am I to go through this - to be able to help others one day? Am I being molded for something bigger? Or do I need to hush, sit back and absorb more?
These may all sound lofty and grand - because I am tired. I am discouraged. I am tired of worrying. I am literally tired of living paycheck to paycheck with no give in between. I miss being able to do things for the kids. There are needs and yes some wants that I want to be able to supply. I just wanted to scream Saturday when i walked into mom's house......and saw all those white garbage bags. I couldn't even go the grocery store until someone sat with Mom. Those 45 minutes were the only minutes I had to myself all weekend. I was so tired I was sick.
A history............
One Tuesday - September 2000 - Dad attacks mom with a butcher knife (thus beginning our trip into the land of Alzheimer's with him, Sam has bad asthma attack I am in the hospital with him, fortunately dad is in same hospital, I get divorce papers and foreclosure papers. One day -24 hours.
February 2009 - I am married - almost a year. I lose my good paying job. Mom has a heart attack. Kids dad stops paying child support. I get a job and a a part time job - barely making half of what I used to make. Mom's alzheimer advances probably due to heart attack. One month. -28 days actually.
So much can happen in a short length of time - that it feels like a lifetime. There are times I feel like a failure. Then there are times when I am so joyful and happy. But I guess that is life. I must learn to give all to God. The ups and the downs - the ride may be bumpy but the safety belt stronger. There are so many needs - that sometimes I wander if they are actual needs. I don't need to worry. I don't need to feel guilty for Sam wearing borrowed cleats during football this past spring - he survived. We have a roof over our head, dinner every night, clothes on our backs, everyone is healthy and strong. So why do I put myself through this? I just don't know.
Yesterday I sent an email to a friend - I am not trying to sound pitiful or poor mouth - because God is so good.
But here is part of my self evaluation. Hopefully I will be so much stronger one day, one week, one month, one year from now.
Mark Gungar on Focus said one time "God does not want you to marry the person who meets all your needs because then there would be no room for Him."
Steve and I have been married four years. I think to all that has happened and hit us. I can see where God has provided and sustained us....me in many ways.
I wonder why I am on this journey - what is the purpose? Maybe One purpose is for God to be glorified, for the kingdom of heaven to be expanded. Another reason I suppose - is my reaction to situations. I thought with being a single mom for 11 years I had pretty much seen it all and such. Or went through it. Boy was I wrong. Never ask "what else Lord?" Am I to go through this - to be able to help others one day? Am I being molded for something bigger? Or do I need to hush, sit back and absorb more?
These may all sound lofty and grand - because I am tired. I am discouraged. I am tired of worrying. I am literally tired of living paycheck to paycheck with no give in between. I miss being able to do things for the kids. There are needs and yes some wants that I want to be able to supply. I just wanted to scream Saturday when i walked into mom's house......and saw all those white garbage bags. I couldn't even go the grocery store until someone sat with Mom. Those 45 minutes were the only minutes I had to myself all weekend. I was so tired I was sick.
A history............
One Tuesday - September 2000 - Dad attacks mom with a butcher knife (thus beginning our trip into the land of Alzheimer's with him, Sam has bad asthma attack I am in the hospital with him, fortunately dad is in same hospital, I get divorce papers and foreclosure papers. One day -24 hours.
February 2009 - I am married - almost a year. I lose my good paying job. Mom has a heart attack. Kids dad stops paying child support. I get a job and a a part time job - barely making half of what I used to make. Mom's alzheimer advances probably due to heart attack. One month. -28 days actually.
So much can happen in a short length of time - that it feels like a lifetime. There are times I feel like a failure. Then there are times when I am so joyful and happy. But I guess that is life. I must learn to give all to God. The ups and the downs - the ride may be bumpy but the safety belt stronger. There are so many needs - that sometimes I wander if they are actual needs. I don't need to worry. I don't need to feel guilty for Sam wearing borrowed cleats during football this past spring - he survived. We have a roof over our head, dinner every night, clothes on our backs, everyone is healthy and strong. So why do I put myself through this? I just don't know.
Monday, June 04, 2012
MOM AND LIGHT BULBS
Before I start I will admit this was a rough weekend with mom. I am worn out - - on top of it I think I had a stomach bug of sorts last night (though it could have been stress).
Mom was alone for a brief time. Lesson learned - won't happen again. She had been doing fine in those little increments of time that allowed me a break, to run errands, etc. But Saturday - she packed up literally her whole bedroom and bathroom in garbage bags - in one bag she had just band aids and q-tips.
Then I started noticing light bulbs. She has always had this thing about light bulbs. She was afraid she wouldn't have any. I saw light bulbs in every nook and cranny of the house - hidden like Easter Eggs. Under pillows, in the corner behind the broom, in the bathroom, under pillows (a favorite hiding spot). By the time I finished I had found 40 something light bulbs. Where on earth where she had them beats me -all lights were accounted for - she didn't take any out.
She never slept. Oh, she would cat nap - 15 minutes here or there - but never ever slept all weekend. Thankfully we have child locks on everything. She sure did wander around all night all weekend (Didn't help that we had storms all night last night) Right now do I need to call the doctor and ask for additional med at night? I don't want her over medicated - but I don't know if I can keep this up. Surely not sleeping is not good for her.
Some good times....
We went to visit my sister - she was so excited to go - she cleaned herself up - put on make up and did her hair. She had fun.
I made a chocolate cake - her favorite with just confectioners sugar sprinkled on top - she loved it. Also made her scalloped potatoes - she love them also.
She missed "girl" - "Girl" is Melecia. She kept waiting for her. Hard to make her understand Melecia comes Monday-Friday. I just show her on calendar - she will be here in two more squares....(days)
But what a blessing that she remembers and loves someone.
Mom was alone for a brief time. Lesson learned - won't happen again. She had been doing fine in those little increments of time that allowed me a break, to run errands, etc. But Saturday - she packed up literally her whole bedroom and bathroom in garbage bags - in one bag she had just band aids and q-tips.
Then I started noticing light bulbs. She has always had this thing about light bulbs. She was afraid she wouldn't have any. I saw light bulbs in every nook and cranny of the house - hidden like Easter Eggs. Under pillows, in the corner behind the broom, in the bathroom, under pillows (a favorite hiding spot). By the time I finished I had found 40 something light bulbs. Where on earth where she had them beats me -all lights were accounted for - she didn't take any out.
She never slept. Oh, she would cat nap - 15 minutes here or there - but never ever slept all weekend. Thankfully we have child locks on everything. She sure did wander around all night all weekend (Didn't help that we had storms all night last night) Right now do I need to call the doctor and ask for additional med at night? I don't want her over medicated - but I don't know if I can keep this up. Surely not sleeping is not good for her.
Some good times....
We went to visit my sister - she was so excited to go - she cleaned herself up - put on make up and did her hair. She had fun.
I made a chocolate cake - her favorite with just confectioners sugar sprinkled on top - she loved it. Also made her scalloped potatoes - she love them also.
She missed "girl" - "Girl" is Melecia. She kept waiting for her. Hard to make her understand Melecia comes Monday-Friday. I just show her on calendar - she will be here in two more squares....(days)
But what a blessing that she remembers and loves someone.
Sunday, June 03, 2012
Sleep? Pshaw!
Sleep who needs sleep? Not mom!
She had a rough Saturday. I'm trying to decide on who cried harder..... Me or her. It's a toss up!
When I'm not so drained I will share her antics. By then I will be able to laugh.
She had a rough Saturday. I'm trying to decide on who cried harder..... Me or her. It's a toss up!
When I'm not so drained I will share her antics. By then I will be able to laugh.
Thursday, May 31, 2012
ALZHEIMER'S.....
To say that no two cases of Alzheimer's are alike would be an understatement.
My dad had it. My mom has it.
Dad progressed so quickly. Looking back I don't even know if his was actual Alzheimer's disease. His sister had it also - she was more like mom.
Mom had two sisters with it - both so different from mom. Sweet Aunt Evie - stayed so sweet and loving. She would put on her lipstick and perfume every day for Uncle Estle. Ever proper Aunt Bobbie - I wasn't around her as much....but I think she was about the same as Aunt Evie.
I don't understand the disease. I just have to learn to adapt to the things that happen because of it. And love mom through it all. God gives me energy and strength every step of the way. Gives me grace when I don't deserve it - rest when I need it the most.
My dad had it. My mom has it.
Dad progressed so quickly. Looking back I don't even know if his was actual Alzheimer's disease. His sister had it also - she was more like mom.
Mom had two sisters with it - both so different from mom. Sweet Aunt Evie - stayed so sweet and loving. She would put on her lipstick and perfume every day for Uncle Estle. Ever proper Aunt Bobbie - I wasn't around her as much....but I think she was about the same as Aunt Evie.
I don't understand the disease. I just have to learn to adapt to the things that happen because of it. And love mom through it all. God gives me energy and strength every step of the way. Gives me grace when I don't deserve it - rest when I need it the most.
MOM AND WATERMELON
She had first watermelon of the season last night. Loved loved it!
She ate one quarter - and this was after eating a hamburger, baked beans and chips. And after our walk.
She did tell me - that I need a bigger garden. I don't have a garden - I bought the thing at Walmart.
She ate one quarter - and this was after eating a hamburger, baked beans and chips. And after our walk.
She did tell me - that I need a bigger garden. I don't have a garden - I bought the thing at Walmart.
MOM AND HER PURSE
Where she goes, her purse goes also. Bathroom, living room to kitchen and back again, it goes with her.
She has her important "stuff " in there. Clippers, 3 brushes, eye glass cases, birthday cards, Christmas cards, lipstick, eyebrow pencil, tape, and her wallet.
The zipper on her black purse broke. Lord help us all. I remember she had another purse in a closet. So I go get it - make a big deal about it - she switches. The fun begins. It has two zippers - not one "Why do I need two zippers? My other one only had one." She asks. I tell her '"because she has two compartments - so she has more room." It only has one strap not two - "My other one had two straps not one." "Because this one is a shoulder bag not one you carry" - I respond.
"Why does this one have stripes, my other one did not." "Because they are made completely different."
For about 30 minutes she pointed out each difference. She carries it funny not on her shoulder. I am thinking I will be getting her one with two straps this weekend.
She has her important "stuff " in there. Clippers, 3 brushes, eye glass cases, birthday cards, Christmas cards, lipstick, eyebrow pencil, tape, and her wallet.
The zipper on her black purse broke. Lord help us all. I remember she had another purse in a closet. So I go get it - make a big deal about it - she switches. The fun begins. It has two zippers - not one "Why do I need two zippers? My other one only had one." She asks. I tell her '"because she has two compartments - so she has more room." It only has one strap not two - "My other one had two straps not one." "Because this one is a shoulder bag not one you carry" - I respond.
"Why does this one have stripes, my other one did not." "Because they are made completely different."
For about 30 minutes she pointed out each difference. She carries it funny not on her shoulder. I am thinking I will be getting her one with two straps this weekend.
MOM AND HER SWEATER
Mom constantly wears a wool sweater. It can be 100 degrees outside - with heat index of 120.
Last night she was in good spirits - she had an awesome day so I ask her if she wants to go walk around the block - she was so excited - so we did. It had been 97 all day. She had on her wool sweater. I said "mom you may want to take it off, you are going to get too hot..." She said "Becky I am freezing - I am wearing the sweater."
Alrighty then.
We start walking.
She then says....."Good Lord Becky you should have told me it was so hot....now I have to carry this sweater." (She won't allow me to carry it)
Ha ha ha
Last night she was in good spirits - she had an awesome day so I ask her if she wants to go walk around the block - she was so excited - so we did. It had been 97 all day. She had on her wool sweater. I said "mom you may want to take it off, you are going to get too hot..." She said "Becky I am freezing - I am wearing the sweater."
Alrighty then.
We start walking.
She then says....."Good Lord Becky you should have told me it was so hot....now I have to carry this sweater." (She won't allow me to carry it)
Ha ha ha
Wednesday, May 30, 2012
NOT MY JOB....IT IS MY JOB ADJUSTING MY ATTITUDE
I work in customer service - I answer phones, emails and chats all day. My job is to take care of the customer - to be nice, patient, kind even when it is hard. My desk phone rings non-stop all day - by the end of the day a ringing phone is like nails on a chalkboard.
Recently, my duties have increased beyond customer service. I must admit my attitude wasn't that great. I was having and still am having a hard time adjusting and finding time to do the job right. I was resentful. Then I was taken to the woodshed....
God speaks of working.....
Here are a few scripture points....
Be diligent and hard-working (Proverbs 14:23).
Do not be lazy. (1 Thessalonians 5:14; 2 Thessalonians 3:6-12; Proverbs 6:6-11; 12:24,27; 15:19; Ecclesiastes 11:6; Titus 3:14
Do not just do what you should, do it on time, when you are supposed to (Proverbs 20:4)
Be skilled at what you do (Proverbs 22:29; 1 Corinthians 4:12; Ephesians 6:5-8), and do it as you were serving the Lord (Colossians 3:22-24)
Planning is both good and essential (Proverbs 20:4,18; 21:5; 30:25). Give thought to your ways (Proverbs 14:8; Titus 3:14).
There are so many others!
I am blessed to have a job. Blessed to work for a company who understands a sick mom, school events, etc. Very family friendly. I need to plan, be more organized and work to bless God, not myself!
Recently, my duties have increased beyond customer service. I must admit my attitude wasn't that great. I was having and still am having a hard time adjusting and finding time to do the job right. I was resentful. Then I was taken to the woodshed....
God speaks of working.....
Here are a few scripture points....
Be diligent and hard-working (Proverbs 14:23).
Do not be lazy. (1 Thessalonians 5:14; 2 Thessalonians 3:6-12; Proverbs 6:6-11; 12:24,27; 15:19; Ecclesiastes 11:6; Titus 3:14
Do not just do what you should, do it on time, when you are supposed to (Proverbs 20:4)
Be skilled at what you do (Proverbs 22:29; 1 Corinthians 4:12; Ephesians 6:5-8), and do it as you were serving the Lord (Colossians 3:22-24)
Planning is both good and essential (Proverbs 20:4,18; 21:5; 30:25). Give thought to your ways (Proverbs 14:8; Titus 3:14).
There are so many others!
I am blessed to have a job. Blessed to work for a company who understands a sick mom, school events, etc. Very family friendly. I need to plan, be more organized and work to bless God, not myself!
Tuesday, May 29, 2012
Monday, May 28, 2012
So sue me.... I'm not a barber
Sam asked me to give him his summer buzz cut. We have clippers here I thought well why not? Would save $15.
Well he has no hair! I mean there is some fuzz. I told him hair is overrated but he didn't believe me. But I named a few famous bald men, Mr. Clean, Kojak, Van Diesel, Bruce Willis and others. He didn't appreciate the words. He put on a hat.
But it will grow back by Christmas?
Well he has no hair! I mean there is some fuzz. I told him hair is overrated but he didn't believe me. But I named a few famous bald men, Mr. Clean, Kojak, Van Diesel, Bruce Willis and others. He didn't appreciate the words. He put on a hat.
But it will grow back by Christmas?
Sunday, May 27, 2012
That's just nasty!
Now that I'm thinking about it I have a lot of mom and Sam stories.
But I will save those for later.
Today's story......this morning mom was up way early, I do not think she slept. So I hear her up and moving. I get up make her coffe and cereal. I take care of dogs and such. I lay back down for a few minutes sorting the day out and trying to wake up. I get back up, now Sam is up. I look over at mom and then I notice something.... She has on her ever present sweater and no shirt!!!! Without thinking I say "mom where's your shirt?!" Sam then just ran out of the room without looking but hollered out "now that's just nasty!!"
I look for the shirt can't find it! No telling where she put it. So I give her a Tshirt , she doesn't want to put it on .... She says it's too wrinkled! But she gets it on.
And then in the car it hits us both and we start laughing until mom has tears!
And no we haven't found her shirt.
Friday, May 25, 2012
Update on Charlie
My brother-in-law did have a blockage. They were able to take care of it - and changed some medicine.
Continue to pray for a speedy recovery.
They said he was fortunate he came when he did - it was a bad blockage. I guess he will learn not to ignore the signs.
Thanks for praying.
Continue to pray for a speedy recovery.
They said he was fortunate he came when he did - it was a bad blockage. I guess he will learn not to ignore the signs.
Thanks for praying.
MOM AND POPCORN
Steve popped a bag of popcorn last night - I could see mom sniffing the air. He gave her some popcorn and diet coke. She went to town! Like she hadn't ate popcorn in forever! (it probably has been a long time)
She just watched TV and ate all her popcorn. She went to bed and slept all night!
She just watched TV and ate all her popcorn. She went to bed and slept all night!
MOM AND THE SEATBELT
I seem to have a lot of posts beginning with Mom and.....
Yesterday mom is in the car with me, I say buckle up! (she clucks that tongue - becuase she has always hated seatbelts)
She pulls the strap over - and I am checking my phone, getting her stuff situated - I begin to pull out she yells "WAIT" - I look over - and she said "This won't buckle" - I look a second time - the seat belt is on her head - with the buckle part behind her ear. I don't even know what happened. Didn't even try to figure out the details - just got her situated.
Then laughed later.
Yesterday mom is in the car with me, I say buckle up! (she clucks that tongue - becuase she has always hated seatbelts)
She pulls the strap over - and I am checking my phone, getting her stuff situated - I begin to pull out she yells "WAIT" - I look over - and she said "This won't buckle" - I look a second time - the seat belt is on her head - with the buckle part behind her ear. I don't even know what happened. Didn't even try to figure out the details - just got her situated.
Then laughed later.
Thursday, May 24, 2012
Pray for Charlie
My brother-in-law, Charlie, is having a heart cath tomorrow morning. He has to be at the hospital at 5:30.
Please be in prayer.
Please be in prayer.
CONGRATULATIONS 8TH GRADE SAM
Today is the last day of school. (Whew!)
At 11:30 a.m. Sam will be an official 8th grader. One year away from high school.
Sam, I am so proud of you. I love you lots!
At 11:30 a.m. Sam will be an official 8th grader. One year away from high school.
Sam, I am so proud of you. I love you lots!
MOM AND SHOES
Yesterday mom had a good day. Melecia did call once and said mom kept looking for shoes and was getting upset. Melecia laid out every pair possible.
I suggested that she take on pair of her favorites, put them in another room, and "holler" out - "Mrs. Martha, I found your shoes..."
It worked - mom settled down - she had her white Rebocks and all was well.
:)
I suggested that she take on pair of her favorites, put them in another room, and "holler" out - "Mrs. Martha, I found your shoes..."
It worked - mom settled down - she had her white Rebocks and all was well.
:)
Wednesday, May 23, 2012
MOM AND LAUNDRY!!!!!!!
I have written about laundry before. Last night I had my usual pile of laundry in a chair. I was looking at it but somehow it just didn't fold itself.
Mom was having a bad night - but all of a sudden she wanted to fold laundry. She started folding the laundry. Then she would unfold it, then fold it again. But she was calm while doing it. Then she decided to go to bed.
Whatever works!
Mom was having a bad night - but all of a sudden she wanted to fold laundry. She started folding the laundry. Then she would unfold it, then fold it again. But she was calm while doing it. Then she decided to go to bed.
Whatever works!
Tuesday, May 22, 2012
BAD NIGHT
Mom is having a real bad night. She just ate so I'm hoping she will settle.
Selfishly, I'm tired and don't feel very strong and able to handle life tonight.
Please pray for a peaceful night.
Selfishly, I'm tired and don't feel very strong and able to handle life tonight.
Please pray for a peaceful night.
A BLOG I READ AND RELATE TO.......
http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/
It will grab you from the start. I wish I had the eloquence he does.....he speaks to and for so many.
It will grab you from the start. I wish I had the eloquence he does.....he speaks to and for so many.
WANDERING - SUNDOWING.....JUST NOT A GOOD DAY
Mom did not have such a good day yesterday.
I picked her up - she was so ready to come home with me - had her little bag packed. :) She was Sundowning big time..
We get to our house - and she never settles. She nibbled at dinner (though Melecia did tell me she ate a good lunch and had snacked on her precious Mrs. Weaver's Salad), she folded some clothes (loves folding laundry), then she wandered all over the house with a paper towel just wiping - for almost two hours. She had a stomach ache - after she found relief - she rested. But she was up early and ready to go! I had a headache left over from yesterday and I felt real nervous for some reason - I couldn't sleep. Maybe I was sundowning!
As I type this I can't help but compare mom and dad. Dad went down so fast - he seemed to suffer so much. Mom is different - as Ronald Reagan's daughter wrote - it is the Long Goodbye. I am glad mom is not suffering physically. She is strong, walks and exercises - has a decent appetite. It is just the prison in her mind. Dad seemed to have known in someway what was happening and just gave up. After reading a blog or two - about treating infections and agitation - dad was totally over medicated 10 years ago. I have never wanted mom over medicated. I am funny about medicine. There are times when I may have to give mom an extra pill for agitation - I try to avoid it. Milk and a snack seem to do wonders for her. (especially if it is cookies!) I have learned that during peak sundowing time - to just get the house quiet and dim lights. I actually put the TV on "low stress" channels - the cooking channel, the weather channel, or just a kids comedy that doesn't have horrible language, etc. What seems to calm most is when we are driving in the car every morning - listening to Chuck Swindol. She loves to listen to him. Today we listened to part of Adrian Rogers and then Chuck Swindol.
Again, I appreciate Melecia so much. She had a rough day with mom yesterday but was real positive and happy when I got there- though I could tell she was tired.
I picked her up - she was so ready to come home with me - had her little bag packed. :) She was Sundowning big time..
We get to our house - and she never settles. She nibbled at dinner (though Melecia did tell me she ate a good lunch and had snacked on her precious Mrs. Weaver's Salad), she folded some clothes (loves folding laundry), then she wandered all over the house with a paper towel just wiping - for almost two hours. She had a stomach ache - after she found relief - she rested. But she was up early and ready to go! I had a headache left over from yesterday and I felt real nervous for some reason - I couldn't sleep. Maybe I was sundowning!
As I type this I can't help but compare mom and dad. Dad went down so fast - he seemed to suffer so much. Mom is different - as Ronald Reagan's daughter wrote - it is the Long Goodbye. I am glad mom is not suffering physically. She is strong, walks and exercises - has a decent appetite. It is just the prison in her mind. Dad seemed to have known in someway what was happening and just gave up. After reading a blog or two - about treating infections and agitation - dad was totally over medicated 10 years ago. I have never wanted mom over medicated. I am funny about medicine. There are times when I may have to give mom an extra pill for agitation - I try to avoid it. Milk and a snack seem to do wonders for her. (especially if it is cookies!) I have learned that during peak sundowing time - to just get the house quiet and dim lights. I actually put the TV on "low stress" channels - the cooking channel, the weather channel, or just a kids comedy that doesn't have horrible language, etc. What seems to calm most is when we are driving in the car every morning - listening to Chuck Swindol. She loves to listen to him. Today we listened to part of Adrian Rogers and then Chuck Swindol.
Again, I appreciate Melecia so much. She had a rough day with mom yesterday but was real positive and happy when I got there- though I could tell she was tired.
Monday, May 21, 2012
MRS. WEAVER'S CHICKEN SALAD
Mom loves the stuff. She eats it every day. And I mean EVERY DAY.
Other favorite foods...attention food companies....feel free to send coupons or samples. Ha ha.
Wavy Lays Chips
Caffeine Free Diet Coke
Chips A Hoy
Fig Newtons
Apple Sauce
Campbells Chicken Noodle Soup
The little chocolate Doughnuts (she loves sweets! and I don't stress about it either)
Coffee
Milk - she drinks a lot of milk!
Canned Pears and peaches
Other favorite foods...attention food companies....feel free to send coupons or samples. Ha ha.
Wavy Lays Chips
Caffeine Free Diet Coke
Chips A Hoy
Fig Newtons
Apple Sauce
Campbells Chicken Noodle Soup
The little chocolate Doughnuts (she loves sweets! and I don't stress about it either)
Coffee
Milk - she drinks a lot of milk!
Canned Pears and peaches
PRODUCTIVITY. SOCKS, MESSES AND STUPID MISTAKES
Random stuff actually.
It was a productive weekend for me. And I feel good about it.
Friday I left work early - went to a ball game at school. Red and Black game - Sam was playing. It was hot and loud - but I was away from work with an activity that didn't involve doctors, insurance, etc....
After the game, I ran errands and such. Got home and mowed the yard. Yeah!
Saturday I cleaned our house. I mean really cleaned - moved stuff, washed, dusted. I cleaned baseboards using socks on my hands. Ugh the dust that came off of them!
Did what seemed like tons of laundry and ironed. Shopped for mom, brought her back with us - she wasn't in the best of moods - okay, I will be real, she was down right mean. But she came back down to semi-sweet after she ate. She didn't sleep that great - she was up and down.
Barney the puppy - managed to make multiple messes of different types all weekend. He wasn't so cute. ARRGGHHHH.
We had awesome church services Sunday - goodness God really spoke. We then went grocery shopping.
Now to the stupid mistake...I check my bank balance - expecting $17 left (yep you read that one right-just proud that it wasn't in the hole) - I had a lot more. Then I thought UH OH - I used mom's debit card for a week instead of mine - so I will take care of that cluster today. I am so mad at myself. I wasn't thinking, wasn't reading or checking. Ugh ugh ugh
Still tied up in a child support cluster. That is making me tired. Hmmph.
It was a productive weekend for me. And I feel good about it.
Friday I left work early - went to a ball game at school. Red and Black game - Sam was playing. It was hot and loud - but I was away from work with an activity that didn't involve doctors, insurance, etc....
After the game, I ran errands and such. Got home and mowed the yard. Yeah!
Saturday I cleaned our house. I mean really cleaned - moved stuff, washed, dusted. I cleaned baseboards using socks on my hands. Ugh the dust that came off of them!
Did what seemed like tons of laundry and ironed. Shopped for mom, brought her back with us - she wasn't in the best of moods - okay, I will be real, she was down right mean. But she came back down to semi-sweet after she ate. She didn't sleep that great - she was up and down.
Barney the puppy - managed to make multiple messes of different types all weekend. He wasn't so cute. ARRGGHHHH.
We had awesome church services Sunday - goodness God really spoke. We then went grocery shopping.
Now to the stupid mistake...I check my bank balance - expecting $17 left (yep you read that one right-just proud that it wasn't in the hole) - I had a lot more. Then I thought UH OH - I used mom's debit card for a week instead of mine - so I will take care of that cluster today. I am so mad at myself. I wasn't thinking, wasn't reading or checking. Ugh ugh ugh
Still tied up in a child support cluster. That is making me tired. Hmmph.
Thursday, May 17, 2012
CLUCKING......
If you were to walk into my mother's house right now - you find an immaculate, neat as a pin, eat off the floor kind of house. It has always always been that way. I am so thankful she can still dust, mop, sweep, wipe her little house. My dad built that house. Every nook and cranny is theirs - 52 years of marriage. Mom has lived in that house 32 years now. Wow!
Now....come into my house. Now it wouldn't totally embarrass me if company came by. But it is not mom's...and mom let's me know this by clucking her tongue. And saying...."you just help it Becky that you work..."
This morning - she started folding laundry and was wiping down my cabinets, all the while her tongue clucking. "Well, Becky we understand you work...you are busy..."
ha ha ha.
Now....come into my house. Now it wouldn't totally embarrass me if company came by. But it is not mom's...and mom let's me know this by clucking her tongue. And saying...."you just help it Becky that you work..."
This morning - she started folding laundry and was wiping down my cabinets, all the while her tongue clucking. "Well, Becky we understand you work...you are busy..."
ha ha ha.
Wednesday, May 16, 2012
IN THE NEWS
I am so glad that Alzheimer's is in the news. We need attention brought to this hateful disease. But we need more than a web-site, a toll free number and pats on the head.
I wish I was smarter. I wish I was a doctor. A scientist. Something or someone who could help find a cure. A treatment. A preventative. Something. But I am me. Facing this with my mother after going through it with my father. And seeing three aunts lose the battle also.
As I wrote before I try to find laughter in the day - to enjoy the lighter side of things. I laugh to keep from crying on most days. And sometimes the tears win.
I wonder if I could adequately explain to our President what Alzheimer's does to the person and the family. How tired one can get? How discouraged? How it must be a living hell to be trapped in your mind like so many are? How it is hard to work and take care of family when you are a caregiver? I never seem focused on the tasks at hand - worrying about mom. Though it is easier since wonderful Melecia came into our lives.
I wish I was smarter. I wish I was a doctor. A scientist. Something or someone who could help find a cure. A treatment. A preventative. Something. But I am me. Facing this with my mother after going through it with my father. And seeing three aunts lose the battle also.
As I wrote before I try to find laughter in the day - to enjoy the lighter side of things. I laugh to keep from crying on most days. And sometimes the tears win.
I wonder if I could adequately explain to our President what Alzheimer's does to the person and the family. How tired one can get? How discouraged? How it must be a living hell to be trapped in your mind like so many are? How it is hard to work and take care of family when you are a caregiver? I never seem focused on the tasks at hand - worrying about mom. Though it is easier since wonderful Melecia came into our lives.
WHEW! NO SKUNK!
After a careful and detailed search of our attic - dressed in goggles, gloves, flashlight and a broomstick - no critters in the attic.
I am leaning toward what the pest control guy said - Mr. Skunk probably sprayed outside our house. Ugh.
But thankful for no critters!
I am leaning toward what the pest control guy said - Mr. Skunk probably sprayed outside our house. Ugh.
But thankful for no critters!
Tuesday, May 15, 2012
NO OFFENSE......
I know we only have a few short days of school left...but I just wish schools would slow down on the projects so close to the end of the year! There is only so much time!
Sam has had six projects due in two weeks - major projects at that.
A coworker - her granddaughter received notice on two projects Due today on Friday. They first thought her granddaughter wasn't telling the truth when she knew - the project note was dated Friday. And one is a major project - 50% of her exam.
I am guessing testing is complete, there is not much more they can cram into the kids. Why not just shorten the school year by giving up a break or two. We have Fall Break, Thanksgiving Break (each 1 week), then Christmas Break, Spring Break, Easter......
Maybe my attitude is wrong on this one. Why not go ahead and do exams this week and get them over with and do fun stuff next week. Field day and such?
Sam has had six projects due in two weeks - major projects at that.
A coworker - her granddaughter received notice on two projects Due today on Friday. They first thought her granddaughter wasn't telling the truth when she knew - the project note was dated Friday. And one is a major project - 50% of her exam.
I am guessing testing is complete, there is not much more they can cram into the kids. Why not just shorten the school year by giving up a break or two. We have Fall Break, Thanksgiving Break (each 1 week), then Christmas Break, Spring Break, Easter......
Maybe my attitude is wrong on this one. Why not go ahead and do exams this week and get them over with and do fun stuff next week. Field day and such?
EXPLAIN THE BRAIN TO ME AGAIN?
Last night I went to mom's after work - took her groceries to replace the ones she threw out or poured out. We are going to lock up extra food - I hate to do that - but we sure can't afford to keep going like we are going. The thought of locking it up is making me sick. Probably should have done it sooner.
But now to the funny part of last night.....I am visiting mom - sit down and we talk, watch TV and eat a snack. Melecia is there with us. I get up to leave - ask mom if she wants to come with me - she says no, she will stay there - (she did fine by the way) - then she says..."So if you are here tonight - you won't be here tomorrow night - like last week right? She has figured our my every other night pattern. Explain that to me?
Ha ha.
But now to the funny part of last night.....I am visiting mom - sit down and we talk, watch TV and eat a snack. Melecia is there with us. I get up to leave - ask mom if she wants to come with me - she says no, she will stay there - (she did fine by the way) - then she says..."So if you are here tonight - you won't be here tomorrow night - like last week right? She has figured our my every other night pattern. Explain that to me?
Ha ha.
SKUNK
There is a skunk in, around, near or close to our house.
I am going nuts just thinking about it. I first thought it was in the attic - but a pest control guy said it is unlikely we have one in the attic. He said it could be Mr. Skunk was near a window or the a/c unit and he sprayed and smell came through the house. Or he sprayed Mr. Owl who was trying to kill Mr. Skunk and now Mr. Owl is in our house.
Oh boy.
I am going nuts just thinking about it. I first thought it was in the attic - but a pest control guy said it is unlikely we have one in the attic. He said it could be Mr. Skunk was near a window or the a/c unit and he sprayed and smell came through the house. Or he sprayed Mr. Owl who was trying to kill Mr. Skunk and now Mr. Owl is in our house.
Oh boy.
Monday, May 14, 2012
MEDICINE CHANGE
Mom is going to have a medicine change - she is medicine sensitive. Please pray. Insurance no longer covers one of them.
PROM NIGHT PICTURES
A REALLY BAD DAY
Mom is having a really bad day.
Hopefully Melecia can get her calmed down.
It is so hard not to be discouraged.
Hopefully Melecia can get her calmed down.
It is so hard not to be discouraged.
PRAY SPECIFICALLY
I am going to be blunt.
I believe in specific prayer. Our family has many needs.
Pray for mom. Pray for me as I care for her. Pray for Tori, Sam and Steve and we try to balance it all. Mom has sweet moments, sad moments, mean moments, and those moments I can't even describe - I call them "I don't know what planet she is on moments..."
Pray for my sister Pam, she came through knee surgery okay on Friday -but the recovery begins.
Pray for my other sister Judy and her husband Charlie - right now they are headed for heart tests. Charlie is disabled because of his heart. And they received some bad news financially this weekend. I am praying that God turns it around for them. It doesn't seem fair that they keep getting hit with bad news.
Pray for us - we are hurting financially. I have applications filled out for part-time jobs. I call them non-thinking jobs- I don't want to feel or think. Just work. We need the $ desperately. Quite frankly I am sick of worrying about groceries and gas when I pay bills.
I know God will provide - He always has. He opens the right door at the right time.
I believe in specific prayer. Our family has many needs.
Pray for mom. Pray for me as I care for her. Pray for Tori, Sam and Steve and we try to balance it all. Mom has sweet moments, sad moments, mean moments, and those moments I can't even describe - I call them "I don't know what planet she is on moments..."
Pray for my sister Pam, she came through knee surgery okay on Friday -but the recovery begins.
Pray for my other sister Judy and her husband Charlie - right now they are headed for heart tests. Charlie is disabled because of his heart. And they received some bad news financially this weekend. I am praying that God turns it around for them. It doesn't seem fair that they keep getting hit with bad news.
Pray for us - we are hurting financially. I have applications filled out for part-time jobs. I call them non-thinking jobs- I don't want to feel or think. Just work. We need the $ desperately. Quite frankly I am sick of worrying about groceries and gas when I pay bills.
I know God will provide - He always has. He opens the right door at the right time.
ALZHEIMER'S
I have always tried to have the attitude to laugh when it comes to the adventures of mom. And sometimes it is so hard to do so. Especially when I am tired and such.
I have been thinking about this disease a lot lately. It is such a part of my life.
Dad had Alzheimer's. His sister Alma did too. Mom has it - her sisters Evie and Bobbie did too. And from what mom describes - I bet her mom did too. It is a horrible disease. It is not fair. There has to be a cure - there has to be a way to treat it. It robs us of so much. Robs the patient of so much. What is going on in science labs and hospital's around the world?
I try to think what am I supposed to be learning from this? To see two parents suffer from the same disease -but so dramatically different. Everything I knew about Alzheimer's I knew from dad. Mom is so very different. There is no predicting their behavior. It is light switch. You can peg sundowning time -you just don't know what they will do. Yesterday we ate around 4:00 - gave her medicine at 5:30. Kept the house quiet on a low stress TV show and and semi-dark and that seemed to help considerably. She went to bed at 8:30. So last night was good. Friday night, Saturday and Saturday night, early Sunday afternoon - not so good.
I am thankful for Melecia. She has a gift. She is able to get mom to cooperate and do things that I cannot. And she has told me to be prepared for bad days - that not all of them will be good.
I have been thinking about this disease a lot lately. It is such a part of my life.
Dad had Alzheimer's. His sister Alma did too. Mom has it - her sisters Evie and Bobbie did too. And from what mom describes - I bet her mom did too. It is a horrible disease. It is not fair. There has to be a cure - there has to be a way to treat it. It robs us of so much. Robs the patient of so much. What is going on in science labs and hospital's around the world?
I try to think what am I supposed to be learning from this? To see two parents suffer from the same disease -but so dramatically different. Everything I knew about Alzheimer's I knew from dad. Mom is so very different. There is no predicting their behavior. It is light switch. You can peg sundowning time -you just don't know what they will do. Yesterday we ate around 4:00 - gave her medicine at 5:30. Kept the house quiet on a low stress TV show and and semi-dark and that seemed to help considerably. She went to bed at 8:30. So last night was good. Friday night, Saturday and Saturday night, early Sunday afternoon - not so good.
I am thankful for Melecia. She has a gift. She is able to get mom to cooperate and do things that I cannot. And she has told me to be prepared for bad days - that not all of them will be good.
SOUR MOOD
I have to admit right now I was in the worst mood yesterday morning. I was tired, grumpy and determined not to enjoy church services. Challenging God - "ok, I'm here - bless me!
"
Boy am I ashamed.
We sang the old Hymn "How Great Thou Art" and I just stared crying. I had been questioning God and myself all week - "Where are you God? Why do we keep having these stumbling blocks and problems? Can't we have just one normal - drama free week?" God has not left me - He has not forgotten me. I have forgotten He is there. I have forgotten that He sees exactly what I am...what we are going through. I haven't been looking up - I have been frantic trying to solve things myself.
God loves me....loves you.
Please forgive my friends if I am come across as negative......
"
Boy am I ashamed.
We sang the old Hymn "How Great Thou Art" and I just stared crying. I had been questioning God and myself all week - "Where are you God? Why do we keep having these stumbling blocks and problems? Can't we have just one normal - drama free week?" God has not left me - He has not forgotten me. I have forgotten He is there. I have forgotten that He sees exactly what I am...what we are going through. I haven't been looking up - I have been frantic trying to solve things myself.
God loves me....loves you.
Please forgive my friends if I am come across as negative......
Sunday, May 13, 2012
Diet Coke, sheets, cushions, socks and pillows!
Today mom poured out all diet coke - I have no idea why!
She took all cushions, pillows, sheets off beds and couches.
I cannot find her socks. I have no clue where they are.
Needless to day it has been a rough weekend. I am tired. So is mom.
Pray for a good week!
She took all cushions, pillows, sheets off beds and couches.
I cannot find her socks. I have no clue where they are.
Needless to day it has been a rough weekend. I am tired. So is mom.
Pray for a good week!
Friday, May 11, 2012
$15
Mom has $15 in her wallet. The problem is she constantly takes it out and hides in some nook or cranny in her purse. Could be in her make-up case, her coin purse, balled up in kleenex...wherever.
She couldn't find that $15 last night, she kept pouring her purse out. I found it folded very small - stuck behind a card. I thought her having the money in her purse would help her feel secure - it has made her paranoid.
We haven't had a good week at all.
She couldn't find that $15 last night, she kept pouring her purse out. I found it folded very small - stuck behind a card. I thought her having the money in her purse would help her feel secure - it has made her paranoid.
We haven't had a good week at all.
Thursday, May 10, 2012
PRAYER NEEDED
Please be in prayer for my oldest sister, Pam. She is having knee surgery tomorrow. Her husband is Jerry.
Also be in prayer for my brother-in-law. Charlie (I have wrote about him a time or two) - he is disabled with a heart condition. Today he didn't receive such a good report - he goes back to the doctor on Monday for tests. Pray for him and my sister, Judy.
Also be in prayer for my brother-in-law. Charlie (I have wrote about him a time or two) - he is disabled with a heart condition. Today he didn't receive such a good report - he goes back to the doctor on Monday for tests. Pray for him and my sister, Judy.
HONEST WOMAN
Another funny....
Mom called me the other day. She was thinking that I was just livingg with Steve. She said..."Becky you need to get a certificate...you just can't trust men these days...get a certificate showing you are his wife. That way you won't be arrested."
I told her I was an honest woman.
ha ha ha
Mom called me the other day. She was thinking that I was just livingg with Steve. She said..."Becky you need to get a certificate...you just can't trust men these days...get a certificate showing you are his wife. That way you won't be arrested."
I told her I was an honest woman.
ha ha ha
1ST YEAR COMPLETED!
Tori has just completed her first year of college! Way to go Tori! I am so proud of you.
(She was stressing about two grades - she woke me up at midnight last night when grades were posted to celebrate - I wasn't as excited then as I am now! Sorry about that Tori!)
Love you.
(She was stressing about two grades - she woke me up at midnight last night when grades were posted to celebrate - I wasn't as excited then as I am now! Sorry about that Tori!)
Love you.
Just too funny not to share!!!!!!!
I called mom this morning to prompt her to take her medicine. (We put it in a special spot for this dose).
I stay on the phone with her while she takes it. I just didn't hear a lot of the noise she normally makes when taking a pill smaller than a baby aspirin - she gags and chokes - that is funny in itself. I asked her "Well, did you take it?" She said, "Yes, Becky I did." "Are you sure?" I ask again. She said..."Yes Becky, I don't lie on Sundays." I said... 'Mom it is Thursday." She said.... "Oh well."
ha ha ha ha ha
I stay on the phone with her while she takes it. I just didn't hear a lot of the noise she normally makes when taking a pill smaller than a baby aspirin - she gags and chokes - that is funny in itself. I asked her "Well, did you take it?" She said, "Yes, Becky I did." "Are you sure?" I ask again. She said..."Yes Becky, I don't lie on Sundays." I said... 'Mom it is Thursday." She said.... "Oh well."
ha ha ha ha ha
Wednesday, May 09, 2012
I dont speak French, and he doesn't speak southern...
I am customer service. I answer phone calls all day.
Monday a French-Candaian called - I was on this call 29 minutes and 26 seconds. Mainly because we couldn't understand each other.
Personally I think southern is easier to learn than French. I wonder what the French word for ya'll is?
Monday a French-Candaian called - I was on this call 29 minutes and 26 seconds. Mainly because we couldn't understand each other.
Personally I think southern is easier to learn than French. I wonder what the French word for ya'll is?
A NOT SO GOOD DAY....
Okay, yesterday was a terrible day for mom. She just had a rough day and night. Right now I am so tired I am sick.
Though I hate that the following happened - I am glad it happened - so others could see what I have been going through for awhile.
Melecia came in at mom's yesterday - she started looking for the spaghetti she cooked the night before to warm up for mom's lunch - she couldn't find it - looked everywhere she could possibly think of. She finally opened the dishwasher, and saw the spaghetti in a garbage bag and she had run the dishwasher. Ugh! Some other food items cooked and not cooked have disappeared - we have no clue where they could be. Melecia looked all over the house and I did too. My luck I will find stuff poured in a purse or something like that. Ugh.
All the way around it was not a good day for her. She didn't sleep much - we locked every door and window we could think of - and she just wandered - finally falling asleep on the couch. She ate a good breakfast this morning - took her morning medicine. So prayerfully she will have a better day today.
Funny note: When I got to her house yesterday I had some cookies and cake from a bakery - she was like a kid "Oh, you brought me cookies, now I don't have to go get ice cream!"
Though I hate that the following happened - I am glad it happened - so others could see what I have been going through for awhile.
Melecia came in at mom's yesterday - she started looking for the spaghetti she cooked the night before to warm up for mom's lunch - she couldn't find it - looked everywhere she could possibly think of. She finally opened the dishwasher, and saw the spaghetti in a garbage bag and she had run the dishwasher. Ugh! Some other food items cooked and not cooked have disappeared - we have no clue where they could be. Melecia looked all over the house and I did too. My luck I will find stuff poured in a purse or something like that. Ugh.
All the way around it was not a good day for her. She didn't sleep much - we locked every door and window we could think of - and she just wandered - finally falling asleep on the couch. She ate a good breakfast this morning - took her morning medicine. So prayerfully she will have a better day today.
Funny note: When I got to her house yesterday I had some cookies and cake from a bakery - she was like a kid "Oh, you brought me cookies, now I don't have to go get ice cream!"
Tuesday, May 08, 2012
BARNEY
He is a lot bigger than this now......but this is our puppy.
Barney. And boy is he all puppy!
MS. SHARON
This past Saturday close to the time she was getting off, Tori met Ms. Sharon. It was obvious Ms. Sharon had Alzheimer's and was very confused. She drove a long way and ran out of gas.
I am so proud of my Tori - she stayed two hours after getting off work to sit with Ms. Sharon while her family drove to pick her up. I had the pleasure of spending the last 30 or so minutes with Tori and Ms. Sharon. She is retired Air Force and a retired Lab Tech from the VA Hospital. Her daughter and grandson pulled up and I saw on ther daughter's face all the emotions that I have felt over the past four years. She is jsut beginning on this journey and is trying to get help. She took all keys away and has no clue where she found the set she had. Her main issue is that she is 58 years old and is being told she is not old enough to receive assistance. Makes me sick. This sweet lady is a veteran and is sick, needs help.
I have said it before and I will say it again. I hate this disease..I see no purpose in it.
But to give you visual...here is Ms. Sharon - please pray for her and her family. They seem so sweet and loving.
I am so proud of my Tori - she stayed two hours after getting off work to sit with Ms. Sharon while her family drove to pick her up. I had the pleasure of spending the last 30 or so minutes with Tori and Ms. Sharon. She is retired Air Force and a retired Lab Tech from the VA Hospital. Her daughter and grandson pulled up and I saw on ther daughter's face all the emotions that I have felt over the past four years. She is jsut beginning on this journey and is trying to get help. She took all keys away and has no clue where she found the set she had. Her main issue is that she is 58 years old and is being told she is not old enough to receive assistance. Makes me sick. This sweet lady is a veteran and is sick, needs help.
I have said it before and I will say it again. I hate this disease..I see no purpose in it.
But to give you visual...here is Ms. Sharon - please pray for her and her family. They seem so sweet and loving.
HAPPY HAIRCUT
Taking mom anywhere these days is an adventure and I have to be honest our last few trips to the beauty shop haven't been that fun. But the one this past Saturday went great. She has beautiful hair!
PICTURE FROM 14TH BIRTHDAY
Didn't take too many - they were everywhere....but here is Sam cooling off after a major battle in his Airsoft War party....
MOM DO YOU LIKE THIS DRESS?
Tori is going to Prom with a friend she works with- she sent me a picture. I like it. She bought it - looks great. I will post pictures this next week of Prom Night!
I RECOMMEND THIS....
A product I highly recommend. My sister suggested it - I find it at Walmart by the Febreeze - top shelf. $2.88 here locally.
I use it as a deodorizer, I mop my floors with it twice a week, spray my shower curtain liners every day, garbage cans, counter tops, etc. At first there is slight clean scented odor (similar to what they use in hospitals and doctor offices) - then it disappears along with any bad odors lingering in the air. I absolutely love it.
I use it as a deodorizer, I mop my floors with it twice a week, spray my shower curtain liners every day, garbage cans, counter tops, etc. At first there is slight clean scented odor (similar to what they use in hospitals and doctor offices) - then it disappears along with any bad odors lingering in the air. I absolutely love it.
Sunday, May 06, 2012
Happy Birthday Sam!!!!
Sam you are 14 today. I love you so much! You are getting taller and bigger every day. You love to come behind me and pick me up. You tease Tori relentlessly about being short. You take pride in things you make.
You still plan on being in the Marines. I know you will do well.
I look forward to watching you grow!
Happy Birthday Sam I am!
You still plan on being in the Marines. I know you will do well.
I look forward to watching you grow!
Happy Birthday Sam I am!
Friday, May 04, 2012
WHAT TO DO WITH MYSELF
Now that I have help with mom - I am having a hard time deciding what to do with myself. I had time last night, time to do many things - but chose to do nothing. What is up with that? I have yards to cut, a house to dust, laundry to fold. Instead I did nothing.
Am I being lazy? I would like to say I am just recuperating from total exhaustion.
Hmmph!
Am I being lazy? I would like to say I am just recuperating from total exhaustion.
Hmmph!
SHAME ON ME
Project time.....
For years those words meant Tori and I staying up doing them together, she wanting...demanding my input and help.
Sam brought home a project, and boy did I mess up.. I started tweaking and changing. And I hurt his feelings terribly. I felt so small. He didn't need my advice - he had done an awesome job. I asked for his forgiveness.
The difference between Tori and Sam - she would want me to help to the point of doing a project - Sam just wants to show me his work - he knows what he is going to do.
Shame on me!
For years those words meant Tori and I staying up doing them together, she wanting...demanding my input and help.
Sam brought home a project, and boy did I mess up.. I started tweaking and changing. And I hurt his feelings terribly. I felt so small. He didn't need my advice - he had done an awesome job. I asked for his forgiveness.
The difference between Tori and Sam - she would want me to help to the point of doing a project - Sam just wants to show me his work - he knows what he is going to do.
Shame on me!
Thursday, May 03, 2012
TO MY FRIENDS..
To my friends....I should say sisters......I feel that connected to you.
Diane - For a person who talks all day, I don't have the words to adequately say what you mean to me. Who knew when you made that call to sign up for Children's Choir how our friendship would blossom? You understand me. You listen, you never judge, you hurt when I hurt, rejoice when I rejoice. You understand the difference $10 can make. You gave me shoes when our dress code changed, you took mom a grilled cheese sandwich. You are beautiful raising a beautiful - awesome daughter. You amaze me with all that you do and handle - you do it all with grace and humility.
Carla - I met you in Sunday School and we clicked. How cool is that? We relate to clean houses, mowed yards, love of our kids (we both have one of each), You love fiercely and stand up for me! You even...hmmph with me every day. I have learned so much from you and your husband. You guys are wonderful examples of a strong marriage. You have done so much for me personally. Praying, encouraging, you have taken mom lunch, brought her to me for a dr's appointment. I cannot thank you enough for being who you are.
Nancy - I have known you the longest. You and your girls helped me raise Tori and Sam. Watched them when I was working mutlitple jobs. You have the sweetest presence and quiet strength. I love how you try to solve my problems when you have so much spinning in your world. You have three awesome kids - and have every reason to be proud. I hate when I miss your calls and hate getting your voicemail - because you always make me feel better about myself when I am low. You are loved!
Julie - We met at work. I love you to death. Right now you are facing trial after trial - but you maintain such a good sense of humor. You love your mother. You love your kids. You work so hard, and keep working even when so many around you are rude to the point of mean. You laugh with me, you encourage me. One of may favorite memories is eating pizza with you at the park and just talking.
Sue - You are so brave. You are facing a battle no one should. I love you. You are an encourager and take no bull from anyone. I love the way you love your husband when he is mopping the kitchen floors. I love to hear about your walks on the beach eating cotton candy.
Stacey D - We don't talk as much as we used to. Life has us both so busy. I have never forgotten all that you have done for me and the kids. I cherish those times we hung out on Friday night watching the kids play, eating pizza and talking along with the other Brighton Babes.
Tracey W - Tori's other mother. You were there for me in the darkest and lowest of my times. I am simply blessed to know you. You are an awesome person. I love you.
Joan - How I miss you! But I cherish those times and I am so glad you have found someone to love and care for you. Excited to hear you will be a grandmother or "noanie" soon. You have two awesome boys - you did good!
I have so many other friends, Debbie K, Trish O, Lynn, Christie, Connie, Pattie B, Karma, I am so blessed to know you.
I have no idea what I have done to deserve having so many wonderful folks in my life...but I simply say thank you for being you!
Diane - For a person who talks all day, I don't have the words to adequately say what you mean to me. Who knew when you made that call to sign up for Children's Choir how our friendship would blossom? You understand me. You listen, you never judge, you hurt when I hurt, rejoice when I rejoice. You understand the difference $10 can make. You gave me shoes when our dress code changed, you took mom a grilled cheese sandwich. You are beautiful raising a beautiful - awesome daughter. You amaze me with all that you do and handle - you do it all with grace and humility.
Carla - I met you in Sunday School and we clicked. How cool is that? We relate to clean houses, mowed yards, love of our kids (we both have one of each), You love fiercely and stand up for me! You even...hmmph with me every day. I have learned so much from you and your husband. You guys are wonderful examples of a strong marriage. You have done so much for me personally. Praying, encouraging, you have taken mom lunch, brought her to me for a dr's appointment. I cannot thank you enough for being who you are.
Nancy - I have known you the longest. You and your girls helped me raise Tori and Sam. Watched them when I was working mutlitple jobs. You have the sweetest presence and quiet strength. I love how you try to solve my problems when you have so much spinning in your world. You have three awesome kids - and have every reason to be proud. I hate when I miss your calls and hate getting your voicemail - because you always make me feel better about myself when I am low. You are loved!
Julie - We met at work. I love you to death. Right now you are facing trial after trial - but you maintain such a good sense of humor. You love your mother. You love your kids. You work so hard, and keep working even when so many around you are rude to the point of mean. You laugh with me, you encourage me. One of may favorite memories is eating pizza with you at the park and just talking.
Sue - You are so brave. You are facing a battle no one should. I love you. You are an encourager and take no bull from anyone. I love the way you love your husband when he is mopping the kitchen floors. I love to hear about your walks on the beach eating cotton candy.
Stacey D - We don't talk as much as we used to. Life has us both so busy. I have never forgotten all that you have done for me and the kids. I cherish those times we hung out on Friday night watching the kids play, eating pizza and talking along with the other Brighton Babes.
Tracey W - Tori's other mother. You were there for me in the darkest and lowest of my times. I am simply blessed to know you. You are an awesome person. I love you.
Joan - How I miss you! But I cherish those times and I am so glad you have found someone to love and care for you. Excited to hear you will be a grandmother or "noanie" soon. You have two awesome boys - you did good!
I have so many other friends, Debbie K, Trish O, Lynn, Christie, Connie, Pattie B, Karma, I am so blessed to know you.
I have no idea what I have done to deserve having so many wonderful folks in my life...but I simply say thank you for being you!
HAPPY TEARS
Yesterday after work I went to the grocery store to pick up a few things for mom and myself. Well, I get to mom's - and I just wanted to cry.
Mom has never looked as good and healthy as she did yesterday. The wonderful Home Health Care Provider - had mom exercise, walk. She ate three complete meals, took a bath, did her hair, makeup, etc. I wish I had the words to adequately describe how I felt to see mom look so good and happy. She was laughing and joking.
I have known for a long time- mom needed much more than I could give her. I would struggle with guilt that I was failing her in some way - just doing the best I could - learning as we went along on this journey. Wanting to do more - but not knowing how. This time has been covered in prayer along with the person sent. God sent the right person at the right time.
I feel less stress. I wish I could describe to you the worry that is not with me. Knowing mom is being taken care of so wonderfully. Thank you to my dear friends for praying and for always being so supportive. I am blessed to know you. I may write a post shortly about you all! :)
Mom has never looked as good and healthy as she did yesterday. The wonderful Home Health Care Provider - had mom exercise, walk. She ate three complete meals, took a bath, did her hair, makeup, etc. I wish I had the words to adequately describe how I felt to see mom look so good and happy. She was laughing and joking.
I have known for a long time- mom needed much more than I could give her. I would struggle with guilt that I was failing her in some way - just doing the best I could - learning as we went along on this journey. Wanting to do more - but not knowing how. This time has been covered in prayer along with the person sent. God sent the right person at the right time.
I feel less stress. I wish I could describe to you the worry that is not with me. Knowing mom is being taken care of so wonderfully. Thank you to my dear friends for praying and for always being so supportive. I am blessed to know you. I may write a post shortly about you all! :)
Tuesday, May 01, 2012
ARE YOU READY FOR SOME FOOTBALL?????
Spring training is in full force for Sam. He is excited. He will start this year.
Sam, you had a great 7th grade year, you pulled grades up, stayed active in church, played football and you are now mowing mema's yard. I am so proud of you. Love you.
Sam, you had a great 7th grade year, you pulled grades up, stayed active in church, played football and you are now mowing mema's yard. I am so proud of you. Love you.
DRESSING UP
Today is the last day of Tori's first year of college. She is wiped out. She got up...no make that bounced out of bed. She dressed up for the last day of school - said it was worth celebrating. She has struggled in math - but she will get it. She is pointed in the right direction.
She has managed to go to school full time and work over 30 hours a week. Plus she helps with mom.
Tori, I just want to say I am so proud of you. I love you!
She has managed to go to school full time and work over 30 hours a week. Plus she helps with mom.
Tori, I just want to say I am so proud of you. I love you!
Mom, ADT, Fingernails, the Nurse and the Medicine
Last Friday, mom's home health aide started. And she is absolutely wonderful. With years of experience, one speed - (Fast!), a strong worth ethic, a belly laugh, patience and full of love. And tiny! But what she lacks in size she has in a great attitude! I love her and mom loves her. She calls her "that girl!" She is wonderful at redirecting mom - which is so important with Alzheimer's Disease.
Yesterday she (won't give her name without her permission) gave mom a manicure and did her hair. Mom met me at my car - so proud of her nails and hair. (she still wants to feel like a girl!)
With her home health care comes ADT - which normally would be a good thing. But mom didn't like having an installer in the house and she doesn't like having that box in the house. We were testing it last night - and she told the operator on the other end - "Don't expect me to pay for this ugly thing!"
In this transition of health care, insurance, etc...her main medicine is not getting approved. Doctor gave us some samples - same medicine - but it looks different from her normal medicine. And this is how funny her mind works. She forgets who I am sometimes but she knew the medicine was different looking - wasn't going to take it - took some convincing. She just fussed, then gagged when she swallowed the pill. Ha ha.
Yesterday she (won't give her name without her permission) gave mom a manicure and did her hair. Mom met me at my car - so proud of her nails and hair. (she still wants to feel like a girl!)
With her home health care comes ADT - which normally would be a good thing. But mom didn't like having an installer in the house and she doesn't like having that box in the house. We were testing it last night - and she told the operator on the other end - "Don't expect me to pay for this ugly thing!"
In this transition of health care, insurance, etc...her main medicine is not getting approved. Doctor gave us some samples - same medicine - but it looks different from her normal medicine. And this is how funny her mind works. She forgets who I am sometimes but she knew the medicine was different looking - wasn't going to take it - took some convincing. She just fussed, then gagged when she swallowed the pill. Ha ha.
Tuesday, April 24, 2012
CONTROVERSY
I readily admit it I am a wuss. A chicken. I avoid controversy like the plague.
I have a strong feeling child support issues is about throw me right dab in the middle of it all.
I have a strong feeling child support issues is about throw me right dab in the middle of it all.
Friday, April 13, 2012
Child Support - I have always tried not to bash the kid's dad. He is their dad. At some point we cared for each other. And we have two awesome kids.
Child Support really and truly is the bare minimum to take care of a child.
If you are the non -custodial parent (NCP) paying child support - I want you to think about what it helps to pay for, housing, clothing, utilities, groceries, medicine. I want you to think about the other stuff - maybe not necessities - but important in the the life of a child. Sports, yearbooks, field trips, summer camps, hair cuts, the ice cream man, movies, back to school supplies and clothes, Christmas, Birthdays, music lessons, school clubs, etc. the list could go on and on. There really is never enough $ to do things - come on step up! Make an offer to help out. We get tired of saying no to things that may seem small to us - but really are a big deal to them. The kids really do appreciate the smallest things.
Also, even if you are behind - contact the kids - call them, mail a card, cheer them on! Come see them. They are waiting on you - don't help them fill a vacant spot with something that is not good for them. Go to their games, take them to lunch. Go above and beyond a piece of paper from the courts. DON'T TAKE WHAT YOU FEEL FOR THE CUSTODIAL PARENT (CP) OUT ON THE KIDS. Most of us CP's do not bash - we encourage them to call and write you - knowing they will regret it later if they don't do so - even if they see no results. Do what is right, make an effort - you will be surprised with the results.
Thursday, April 12, 2012
I just wrote in my last post that bath time with mom is horrible. She has been approved for a nursing assistant to come help with bath time a few times a week - but to be honest - mom has acted ugly - and we didn't force the issue. I tried and she wouldn't cooperate the other night.I looked around on various web-sites on how to handle giving baths to Alzheimer Patients - and truth be known - they hate hate baths.
Sooooo ............... after researching - I came up with the idea of typing up a letter from her doctor - and it said the following:
MEDICAL – DOCTOR ORDERS
HOME CARE - FOLLOWUP
Patient is to take a bath twice a week to prevent
Urinary Tract Infection and foot infection. (I am going to work on three times a week!-but she does take good sponge baths)
Have patient use Anti-bacterial soap and clean warm water.
Note to Patient and caregiver: Bathing is very important, , you should not take a bath by yourself. Please allow nurse and family to assist to prevent patient from falling and hurting her knee and lower back.
For our records – please sign this letter so we can track your progress. We will keep this in your file. We need it for insurance. Stay healthy!
I took a bath today on ____________________.
HOME CARE - FOLLOWUP
Patient is to take a bath twice a week to prevent
Urinary Tract Infection and foot infection. (I am going to work on three times a week!-but she does take good sponge baths)
Have patient use Anti-bacterial soap and clean warm water.
Note to Patient and caregiver: Bathing is very important, , you should not take a bath by yourself. Please allow nurse and family to assist to prevent patient from falling and hurting her knee and lower back.
For our records – please sign this letter so we can track your progress. We will keep this in your file. We need it for insurance. Stay healthy!
I took a bath today on ____________________.
Well It worked! The awesome nursing assistant, Mary - was surprised - but she never ever missed a beat - she just went a long with everything. I cannot say enough about her. She accomplished in 30 minutes what takes me well over an hour - and I am always exhausted after bath time. I was dancing and so happy. God is good.
Another trick we have done (don't know if I have shared this) we locked up her working thermostat - and Steve put up one that is not connected - and she plays with that one - we should see her utility bill lower drastically.
I hate that I have to come up with these ideas/tricks - but grateful they come up when needed.
She has been preapproved for permanent - home health - we just need another screening. Please pray this happens quickly.
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
Is the disease or the real mom?
Mom has always been hard to love, she just never ever seemed happy. I know she loved me - all of us - but she just never expressed it. She was more quick to criticize or say we couldn't do something than encourage us to try.
But last night - mom wasn't physically violent (Praise the Lord!) - but she was verbally mean - and I truly say she was very mean. Said some hateful things about me. It is hard not to be hurt or broken hearted - becase I wonder if that is how she always felt?
Bath time -
She hates bath time - I have to figure out a way for bath time. Pray for this!
Mom has always been hard to love, she just never ever seemed happy. I know she loved me - all of us - but she just never expressed it. She was more quick to criticize or say we couldn't do something than encourage us to try.
But last night - mom wasn't physically violent (Praise the Lord!) - but she was verbally mean - and I truly say she was very mean. Said some hateful things about me. It is hard not to be hurt or broken hearted - becase I wonder if that is how she always felt?
Bath time -
She hates bath time - I have to figure out a way for bath time. Pray for this!
Friday, April 06, 2012
John 3:16
For God so love the world that HE gave HIS only begotten SON what whosoever believeth in HIM shall not perish - but have everlasting life.
This verse...we all have heard so many times probably have spoken it many times- never take it for granted. God loves you so much - that had you been the only person here on this earth - HE would have died for you on The Cross!
Remember this message no only this weekend but every day!
Thursday, April 05, 2012
Tuesday, April 03, 2012
SAM
Sam was saved last night. He attended a church drama with friends last night - he was late getting home - I called and he sounded strange on the phone - said he would be home shortly.
I sent him a text asking him if he was okay - he said in NO....
He came in - grabbed my hand and led me to his room -and he started crying. I asked him what was wrong - and he said everything - and I knew then what was up - I asked him point blank - "Sam if you died tonight - would you go to heaven or hell...." He answered "Hell" - then he said he realized all that he had done wrong, etc. So I was given the ultimate gift of leading him through scripture, answering questions, praying with him - and he realized he is a sinner - he prayed and asked Jesus into his heart and life.
Please pray for his continued growth and strength.
Monday, April 02, 2012
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
TABLE FOR TWO........
One thing that drives me insane (don't know if that is an appropriate word) is the amount of food my mother goes through at her house - considering she is with me the bulk of the time.
The next time this happens, I will take a picture. But yesterday morning I stopped by moms on my way into work - she had a good Monday and wanted to stay home that night. So I go in the house and see the table set for two. Two plates, two bowls, two cups of coffee. One in her spot and one in what used to be my dads spot. Sometimes she will prepare a meal for her mother. She still has the heart of a wife and daughter.
But really and truly - she goes through 3 gallons of milk a week! Whew. She drinks milk and a lot of diet coke.
One thing that drives me insane (don't know if that is an appropriate word) is the amount of food my mother goes through at her house - considering she is with me the bulk of the time.
The next time this happens, I will take a picture. But yesterday morning I stopped by moms on my way into work - she had a good Monday and wanted to stay home that night. So I go in the house and see the table set for two. Two plates, two bowls, two cups of coffee. One in her spot and one in what used to be my dads spot. Sometimes she will prepare a meal for her mother. She still has the heart of a wife and daughter.
But really and truly - she goes through 3 gallons of milk a week! Whew. She drinks milk and a lot of diet coke.
Monday, March 26, 2012
I MISS BUT I LOVE.......
I miss when Tori used to climb up on the cabinet in her Beauty and the Beast night gown and help make cupcakes or muffins (She called them fluffins)...but I love now when she calls me and says... "Can I take you to lunch?"
I miss when Sam used to play for hours with green army men on the brick in my mother's house but I love now that he helps in the yard.
I miss when Tori used to have me paint her nails and toes, but I love now when she will ask does this outfit look okay?
I miss when Sam used to have curly hair, but I love when he takes his football helmet off and he's covered in sweat - giving me a peak of the handsome man he is to become.
I miss little hands and feet running around or climbing all over me, but I love the growing hands reaching out to help me.
I have always been blessed to be mom to Tori and Sam and continue to be blessed.
Love you kiddos!
Friday, March 23, 2012
Thursday, March 22, 2012
MOM, THE BATH, THE DOG AND THE PUPPY
Okay, so most of you know one of the biggest fights I have with mom is with taking baths. For a woman is so picky and so clean - she will fight on the bath. I knew yesterday she needed a bath and needed to wash her hair. After her appointments (both went well) - we are alone in my house. No one is due home for a bit. But to be safe, I call my men folk - just to let them know - do not come in the house unless you call first. (let me stop here - we are so close to having home health - Lord help me - she is going to hate having someone in her house!)
I tell mom - "Mom, you are going to take a bath" - she gives me a look that used to strike fear in my 10 year old mind, heart and body... But I stayed strong! I run the bath. We kind of have small bathrooms - but in the bathroom she takes, her purse, shoes, sweater, and her overnight bag - there is no room. She gets in the tub - refuses to sit down. I say as patiently as I can, "Mom sit down..." She says "NO" - and just stands there - the water is the right temperature - so I say "Mom, sit down or I am turning on the shower (she hates showers)...always a tub person." So with the same dirty look - she finally sits down - thank goodness. I help with her hair - she is still mad. Tells me to move - as I move - little did I know that somehow the bathroom door was nudged open by our momma dog-who is behind me, I trip on her and almost land on the puppy who had one of mom's shoes in his mouth.
Get the bath done - in the process bad caregiver me realizes mom's toenails are long overdue for clipping. So after she is dressed I fill a pan of water and baby oil to soften the nails up she soaks her feet- with each clip - she kicks at me. While I am doing this - she decides she needs to clean out her purse. The puppy has now pulled the bathroom rug into the hallway, found a kleenex mom dropped - too funny.
But after an exhausting HOUR and a half of bath time, nail clipping, hair drying, lotioning up. Mom looks, feels and smells better. Her comment "Well, we need to do that more often." ha ha ha ha.
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So, I am thinking my bathroom is a mess, my living room is a mess - let's just groom the dog - so I get her outside - cut her hair - I allow her to recover from that while I am giving puppy his first bath. He doesn't like baths - as he did everything but jump out of the tub. Then momma dogs turn - she is a true woman - loves loves her baths.
Then I have to clean up - I sweep, vacuum, mom, bleach the tub - which somehow in my mind forces me to wash the baseboards and clean the light fixture in the bathroom.
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Then mom says..."Becky you really need to relax....you should go take a bath."
I need cameras in my house. I could make a fortune.
I tell mom - "Mom, you are going to take a bath" - she gives me a look that used to strike fear in my 10 year old mind, heart and body... But I stayed strong! I run the bath. We kind of have small bathrooms - but in the bathroom she takes, her purse, shoes, sweater, and her overnight bag - there is no room. She gets in the tub - refuses to sit down. I say as patiently as I can, "Mom sit down..." She says "NO" - and just stands there - the water is the right temperature - so I say "Mom, sit down or I am turning on the shower (she hates showers)...always a tub person." So with the same dirty look - she finally sits down - thank goodness. I help with her hair - she is still mad. Tells me to move - as I move - little did I know that somehow the bathroom door was nudged open by our momma dog-who is behind me, I trip on her and almost land on the puppy who had one of mom's shoes in his mouth.
Get the bath done - in the process bad caregiver me realizes mom's toenails are long overdue for clipping. So after she is dressed I fill a pan of water and baby oil to soften the nails up she soaks her feet- with each clip - she kicks at me. While I am doing this - she decides she needs to clean out her purse. The puppy has now pulled the bathroom rug into the hallway, found a kleenex mom dropped - too funny.
But after an exhausting HOUR and a half of bath time, nail clipping, hair drying, lotioning up. Mom looks, feels and smells better. Her comment "Well, we need to do that more often." ha ha ha ha.
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So, I am thinking my bathroom is a mess, my living room is a mess - let's just groom the dog - so I get her outside - cut her hair - I allow her to recover from that while I am giving puppy his first bath. He doesn't like baths - as he did everything but jump out of the tub. Then momma dogs turn - she is a true woman - loves loves her baths.
Then I have to clean up - I sweep, vacuum, mom, bleach the tub - which somehow in my mind forces me to wash the baseboards and clean the light fixture in the bathroom.
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Then mom says..."Becky you really need to relax....you should go take a bath."
I need cameras in my house. I could make a fortune.
Monday, March 12, 2012
It was an up and down, roller coaster ride of a weekend.
Friday - I am going to my very first ever Bunco game - I have to take mom - she was restless - I was on edge - I had fun though - wish I could have stayed longer. Everyone was super sweet.
Saturday - Took mom to get her haircut and to walk (she walked one lap and fussed the whole time!) Made an awesome pie for a fundraiser for Sam's Bible Study group. (it fetched $20!) Cooked up a few meals for mom. I go back to moms (she has been alone for maybe 4 hours) she wasn't talking - I am thinking she had a mini stroke or something! I get her in the car - get to my house - she eats, walks around - still no talking. Then Steve and I decide to take her to the hospital - just as we are down the highway she starts talking. Was it a mini stroke or TIA? Was it daylight savings? Was she tired? I don't know! We have a Dr's appt tomorrow and an appointment to be evaluated for home health. (praise the Lord!)
Sunday - mom sleeps until 10:00 am (no way was I waking her up!) - we miss church - but I take her home after we visit my sister. Then we go to PM services - she did great - spent the night with us.
This morning - of course we have three very busy, very active, not housebroken puppies in the house - I keep sanitizer and resolve handy. (they are not touching grass until they receive shots or leave my house) - one poopies in the floor - mom steps in it...I was trying to get mom to sit and quit walking - well she wasn't listening.....she has her breakfast plate in her hand she finally sits where I can clean her shoe and the trail she has left. Then I start looking for her breakfast - she has sat down on that - another mess! ha ha ha ha.
My week has begun.
Friday - I am going to my very first ever Bunco game - I have to take mom - she was restless - I was on edge - I had fun though - wish I could have stayed longer. Everyone was super sweet.
Saturday - Took mom to get her haircut and to walk (she walked one lap and fussed the whole time!) Made an awesome pie for a fundraiser for Sam's Bible Study group. (it fetched $20!) Cooked up a few meals for mom. I go back to moms (she has been alone for maybe 4 hours) she wasn't talking - I am thinking she had a mini stroke or something! I get her in the car - get to my house - she eats, walks around - still no talking. Then Steve and I decide to take her to the hospital - just as we are down the highway she starts talking. Was it a mini stroke or TIA? Was it daylight savings? Was she tired? I don't know! We have a Dr's appt tomorrow and an appointment to be evaluated for home health. (praise the Lord!)
Sunday - mom sleeps until 10:00 am (no way was I waking her up!) - we miss church - but I take her home after we visit my sister. Then we go to PM services - she did great - spent the night with us.
This morning - of course we have three very busy, very active, not housebroken puppies in the house - I keep sanitizer and resolve handy. (they are not touching grass until they receive shots or leave my house) - one poopies in the floor - mom steps in it...I was trying to get mom to sit and quit walking - well she wasn't listening.....she has her breakfast plate in her hand she finally sits where I can clean her shoe and the trail she has left. Then I start looking for her breakfast - she has sat down on that - another mess! ha ha ha ha.
My week has begun.
Friday, March 09, 2012
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