Tuesday, April 24, 2012


I readily admit it I am a wuss.  A chicken.  I avoid controversy like the plague.

I have a strong feeling child support issues is about throw me right dab in the middle of it all.



Friday, April 13, 2012

I just don't like that woman.....

Wonderful Bath Time Mary called - she is coming today for 2nd bath. I told mom. Now remember, mom loved her the other day - well today she said "I just can't stand that woman."

Ha.... ha....

Child Support - I have always tried not to bash the kid's dad. He is their dad. At some point we cared for each other. And we have two awesome kids.

Child Support really and truly is the bare minimum to take care of a child.

If you are the non -custodial parent (NCP) paying child support - I want you to think about what it helps to pay for, housing, clothing, utilities, groceries, medicine. I want you to think about the other stuff - maybe not necessities - but important in the the life of a child. Sports, yearbooks, field trips, summer camps, hair cuts, the ice cream man, movies, back to school supplies and clothes, Christmas, Birthdays, music lessons, school clubs, etc. the list could go on and on. There really is never enough $ to do things - come on step up! Make an offer to help out. We get tired of saying no to things that may seem small to us - but really are a big deal to them. The kids really do appreciate the smallest things.

Also, even if you are behind - contact the kids - call them, mail a card, cheer them on! Come see them. They are waiting on you - don't help them fill a vacant spot with something that is not good for them. Go to their games, take them to lunch. Go above and beyond a piece of paper from the courts. DON'T TAKE WHAT YOU FEEL FOR THE CUSTODIAL PARENT (CP) OUT ON THE KIDS. Most of us CP's do not bash - we encourage them to call and write you - knowing they will regret it later if they don't do so - even if they see no results. Do what is right, make an effort - you will be surprised with the results.

Thursday, April 12, 2012

I just wrote in my last post that bath time with mom is horrible. She has been approved for a nursing assistant to come help with bath time a few times a week - but to be honest - mom has acted ugly - and we didn't force the issue. I tried and she wouldn't cooperate the other night.

I looked around on various web-sites on how to handle giving baths to Alzheimer Patients - and truth be known - they hate hate baths.

Sooooo ............... after researching - I came up with the idea of typing up a letter from her doctor - and it said the following:


Patient is to take a bath twice a week to prevent
Urinary Tract Infection and foot infection. (I am going to work on three times a week!-but she does take good sponge baths)

Have patient use Anti-bacterial soap and clean warm water.

Note to Patient and caregiver: Bathing is very important, , you should not take a bath by yourself. Please allow nurse and family to assist to prevent patient from falling and hurting her knee and lower back.

For our records – please sign this letter so we can track your progress. We will keep this in your file. We need it for insurance. Stay healthy!

I took a bath today on ____________________.

Well It worked! The awesome nursing assistant, Mary - was surprised - but she never ever missed a beat - she just went a long with everything. I cannot say enough about her. She accomplished in 30 minutes what takes me well over an hour - and I am always exhausted after bath time. I was dancing and so happy. God is good.

Another trick we have done (don't know if I have shared this) we locked up her working thermostat - and Steve put up one that is not connected - and she plays with that one - we should see her utility bill lower drastically.

I hate that I have to come up with these ideas/tricks - but grateful they come up when needed.

She has been preapproved for permanent - home health - we just need another screening. Please pray this happens quickly.

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Is the disease or the real mom?

Mom has always been hard to love, she just never ever seemed happy. I know she loved me - all of us - but she just never expressed it. She was more quick to criticize or say we couldn't do something than encourage us to try.

But last night - mom wasn't physically violent (Praise the Lord!) - but she was verbally mean - and I truly say she was very mean. Said some hateful things about me. It is hard not to be hurt or broken hearted - becase I wonder if that is how she always felt?

Bath time -

She hates bath time - I have to figure out a way for bath time. Pray for this!

Friday, April 06, 2012

John 3:16

For God so love the world that HE gave HIS only begotten SON what whosoever believeth in HIM shall not perish - but have everlasting life.

This verse...we all have heard so many times probably have spoken it many times- never take it for granted. God loves you so much - that had you been the only person here on this earth - HE would have died for you on The Cross!

Remember this message no only this weekend but every day!

Thursday, April 05, 2012


I want to understand it - I do. I just don't. It has been a rough rough week. I am so tired and discouraged.

Tuesday, April 03, 2012


Sam was saved last night. He attended a church drama with friends last night - he was late getting home - I called and he sounded strange on the phone - said he would be home shortly.

I sent him a text asking him if he was okay - he said in NO....

He came in - grabbed my hand and led me to his room -and he started crying. I asked him what was wrong - and he said everything - and I knew then what was up - I asked him point blank - "Sam if you died tonight - would you go to heaven or hell...." He answered "Hell" - then he said he realized all that he had done wrong, etc. So I was given the ultimate gift of leading him through scripture, answering questions, praying with him - and he realized he is a sinner - he prayed and asked Jesus into his heart and life.

Please pray for his continued growth and strength.

Monday, April 02, 2012


I know the past does not go away...but we must learn from it. God is Good.
By far this was a rough weekend. Mom was violent...very hard to control. I have cried a thousand tears. She leveled off. Please pray assistance arrives soon!